After much virtual pavement pounding, I've finally snagged enough work to completely sever myself from the place we do not name. Just this morning, I closed the deal on a long-term prospect that will pay me far more than 'they' ever could, with relatively less work and mindfuckery. The bittersweet part is I think it could have happened a long time ago if I'd only been trying. DMS was just so cozy and reliable, it lulled me into stupefaction. But no more.
So, it can be done. I'm not special.